It’s no wonder that book clubs are such a time-tested institution, as I think we all have in common, the desire to let the world know when we’ve just finished a book, and especially when it was a truly great read. Well, lucky me, as Thinking Green gives me that exact platform to do so and I’ve got one hell of a read to share with you.
I find nowadays that I much prefer to read books on psychology or humanity, non fiction with a real opportunity to learn installed within the pages. When digging through book stores last year with my girlfriend I picked up from off the shelf ‘Emotional Agility’ and she was keen to point out that she thought it’d be a good one for me to read. Point taken, thanks. So I did and I looked forward to getting stuck in. In no time at all I was immersed fully into the ideas, the examples and the practical guidance offered by Susan David, a psychologist and consultant that has innovated and pioneered new and interesting ways to consider your emotional state and how to maintain it, manage it and direct it towards creating a better you. Now, with that said, my first great take away from the book was the down to earth nature of the writing. A lot of books or writings on this kind of subject come off preachy and some come from a far too personal/unrelatable position, but ‘Emotional Agility’ does not. No patronization, no judgement, no pressure. In fact, I found most of the book reassuring, as I found myself agreeing with the points and acknowledging that I already practiced emotional agility, perhaps not very well, but I certainly had the foundations down. It was calming and comforting to find that there is still room for emotion of all ranges and it is acceptable and natural to feel things such as anger, sadness and jealousy and that the false positivity that many people today plaster all over their social media aesthetic is not only wrong but damaging. Your emotions are all important but the issue is how you connect with them and use them based on your values and morality. It is about finding your own personal direction and making sure that you allow your emotions to work with you instead of against you.
Some things I did realise whilst reading was that I’m not so agile (my girlfriend was right then) and actually I set myself these unrealistic and destructive targets and goals due to the way I want to present my self and my work ethic, and that actually listening to myself and doing what may benefit me mentally, physically, emotionally is actually the right way to go. I also found it interesting how much I took away from the book on raising children. I agreed fully with all points made on interacting with kids and will hold on to this information for when the time comes.
I heavily recommend ‘Emotional Agility’ to anyone and will be keeping it in mind from this day, going forward. Maybe you should too.